Useful Tips for Parents

THE "THREE MINUTES" RULE

It turns out there is an important and remarkably simple rule – the "three minutes" rule.

It works for spouses as well as for children. When parents in a family start following this rule, they notice that it changes a great deal in their relationships for the better.

The "first three minutes" rule means always greeting your child with great joy, as if you were meeting a friend you had not seen for many, many years. It does not matter whether you have come back from the shop you popped out to for bread or have come home from work. Usually, everything a child wants to share with you comes out in the first minutes of the meeting, and that is why it is important not to miss this time.

You will immediately notice the parents who follow the "first three minutes" rule intuitively. For example, when picking a child up from school, they always crouch down to the child's eye level, hug them when they meet and say that they missed them. Meanwhile, other parents simply take the child by the hand and say "let's go" while talking on the phone.

When you come home from work, turn all your attention to your child right away. You have a few minutes to sit down next to them, ask about their day and listen. Only then go and have dinner and watch the news.

WHAT MATTERS IS NOT THE AMOUNT OF TIME, BUT EMOTIONAL CLOSENESS!

Sometimes a few minutes of a heartfelt conversation mean much more to a little one than a whole day spent with you. Being constantly rushed, anxious and worried will certainly not make our children happier, even if we believe we do it for them and for their well-being.

For parents and children, the expression "time spent together" has different meanings.

For adults, it is enough for the children to simply be nearby while they do something at home or go to the shop.

For children, however, "time together" means looking eye to eye, when parents sit down beside them, put their mobile phones aside, switch off thoughts about hundreds of their own problems and are not distracted by anything else. A child will never confide in you if they feel that something is more of a priority to the parents at that moment than they are.

Of course, parents do not always have time to play with their children, but at such moments do only what the child wants. Do not offer your own options for leisure. Time flies, and before you know it your sons and daughters will have grown up, so do not waste time and start building a trusting relationship with them now.

Let the "three minutes" rule help you with this.